And to top off this wonderful miscarriage cupcake....the icing. Huge argument with hubby tonight.
Going to bed thinking he is insensitive and really out of touch with the scope of how painful, tiring and awful this is. I cannot help thinking he thinks showing grief and pain is a bad thing....only leading to him feeling awkward and uncomfortable. I see this in how his parents raised him and how the entire family deals with issues - no conflict, no problems, no tears and certainly no random outbursts without a good explanation for why they happen and what you are going to do to prevent them in the future.
I have done a really good job (I think) of putting on quite a show these past few days....making dinners, folding laundry, going to grad school classes, working with 10 month old twins girls 8 hours a day. But I broke tonight. Just randomly (actually it was caused by having hands covered with butter, trying to get a knife stuck in the bottom of the dishwasher). I think he is scared of me and really afraid I am nuts.....well I am right now.
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
The Icing
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Hi Neg, thanks for stopping by. If it's any help me husband didn't show how upset he was until after I'd managed to stop crying most days. It seems like he felt he needed to be strong for me.
Oops Meg obviously.
I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. My husband and I have also suffered two miscarriages, one at 5 weeks in August 2005 and another at 11.5 weeks in July 2007.
I wish you peace in this difficult time. Please know that even though you are on the wrong side of the statistic, you are not alone. XOXO
I'm so sorry you are going through this.
I'm so sorry for both of your losses. It seems like lots of us don't fit in the those stats, which makes me think they are completely wrong.
Welcome to the blogosphere. There is so much help and encouragement here.
I'm so sorry for your loss and for all the things you are going through.
I'm so sorry for your losses.
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I can only hope that's the last one.
Bea
I am so sorry to hear about your losses. After I miscarried, one of the things I found most difficult was how quickly my husband seemed to get over it - while I was still a crying, bleeding mess, he carried on as if nothing had happened. Maybe men just have different ways of dealing with it, or maybe as Caro says they feel the need to be strong for us. Whatever he may be feeling, I do hope you will both find the strength to get through all of this.
I am SO very sorry for your loss...and all that you have been through. I hope you find a bit of comfort in all the support we are here to give you!
I am very sorry for your losses. I have been through miscarriage myself. Take good care of yourself and you will find great support here in blog world.
I second finding a RE with RPL knowledge and experience.
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