I think instead of giving this man and woman jail time, they should be put in a room with all of us for a few years.
Hubby is on a surfing trip this week. That sentence immediately makes me think you all are imaging some hunky, tan man tearing up the waves. Well actually he is quite hunky but has never surfed a day in his life so I hope he comes home in one piece....and I hope his schmeckle did not come close to any hot tubs.
Update: Prego gal from class is fine. I came into class and she was talking with many other women about all things pregnancy. She looked at me and I smiled at her....just letting her know I was glad to see she was alright. I thought she would have seen that I did not want to run up to her and join in the conversations. Well she didn't and I understand that. When she was passing out some literature/articles for the professor she came to me and told me that her blood work came back perfect, actually better than perfect.....she gleefully pranced away. Good for her, really. I just think maybe she misheard me last week. Maybe she thought I told her I had been pregnant twice, not that I have miscarried twice. Oh well...so much for hoping pregnant strangers give a rat's ass about your story.
I am going to a baby shower tomorrow morning. I am not looking forward to this at all. First, the shower is for a woman who is having a boy and already has a 2 year old boy....there are multiple showers? Oh, and the shower is at...brace yourself....IHOP. What the hell. I am not trying to be snotty and I am so sorry if your shower was at IHOP and I am totally shitting on your day. I just think there is something more special about spending time with your lady friends someplace other than Denver suburbia in an IHOP, smelling fake syrup and eating egg beaters.
This woman is expecting her baby the day my first was due. This is hard on so many levels, you all know that first hand. This is a time I struggle between people knowing my business and not knowing. If they knew, they probably would not have invited me (this is the lovely group of women in my 11/15/07 post) or there would have been some really uncomfortable moments which I prefer to avoid. Since they do not know, I get to pretend I am happy for her and want to hear all about the upcoming month and my personal favorite....I get to again explain (lie) to all of them when they interrogate me on my procreation plans that "J and I are not ready for children yet, with money being tight and me in grad school, it is just not the right time."
Friday, December 14, 2007
Happenings
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I hope that tomorrow isn't too horrible of a day for you and it goes by quickly.
That's odd the girl in class & her reaction. I don't get it. I feel the least she could do is thank you for your concern... But then again, I've never been on the good luck side of being pregnant, so I don't know how that even feels.
I thankfully do not know anyone with my due date. I can't imagine how that would feel... Don't even want to. I hope you can manage to "go to your happy place" in your mind at times.... (That's the phrase my husband uses when you're being chewed out in the AirForce by someone for a long time about something silly)
OH GOOD NIGHT ..I am sooo sorry that you have to go to a shower - I am with you a shower for #2 when it's the same sex?? Atleast you can eat it up at IHOP .. weird place for a shower btw ..I'm totally with you..
as for hunky surfer babe... Cowabunga DuDe..how cool is that
Oh, gosh, sorry about that shower. And at IHOP of all places. Super random. I highly recommend you plan something for yourself that will please just you post-shower: maybe a walk with the Labs or a massage, whatever. Thinking of you.
And as for preggers in your class. The good karma is all with you. I am sure she just didn't know HOW to react. It would have helped if she displayed some empathy and humility, but regardless, you did a wonderful thing in reaching out to her.
I'll admit I'm a judger and I'm with you on the ihop shower. I think you are well within your right to not go tomorrow morning!
oh, and I laughed at "schmeckle" ;) never heard that one before
I'm sorry about the baby shower. It doesn't sound like much fun. As far as the girl in class, she sounds young and naive. Hope your honey has fun surfing and does come home all in one piece. Hugs to you.
I do not think you "owe" anyone an explanation for why you do not have children yet. Its not like everyone can wake up one day and say hey todays the day I want to get knocked up. For the welfare population, thank goodness. But for the rest of us, it doesn't come so easily. I personally avoided telling people about having a m/c because they automatically jump to conclusions or you sense fake sympathy from them.
IHOP...interesting choice. I am sure you'll breeze gracefully through the event and you'll be thinking about all the things you will do so much better at your shower, right? :)
Love reading your posts btw!
IHOP? Blech. I can think of many other places that I'd rather go. I'm sorry you have to deal with a shower this weekend. It just sucks.
This may be totally inappropriate, but a fellow infertile once told me she deals with these events (and pregnancy announcements, etc.) by pretending the pregnant lady has a horrible marriage, or that she used to be a man. Not that we would ever wish bad things on the lucky ones, but her perspective made me laugh.
You are seriously brave; there's no way I could attend any showers as of right now...whether they were on my due date or not. I would probably choke on my strawberry waffle anyhow ;) Oh and I'm so sure that's not part of the fertility diet :)
I hope the shower today is bearable, and if not, at least hoping the pancakes are.
Thinking of you today...
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